I, as many people find that the Holidays can be sometimes less than uplifting. This time of year can magnify many major events which have occurred in one’s life. Everything from dealing with the past, present to future memories, traditions, changes, and loss, trying to overcome and move on is a monumental challenge. I asked so many people how was your Thanksgiving holiday and many said “quiet” and “no drama”, “great holiday”. Wow. That says it all. Is this the new tradition of a good time, making memories? For many folks that would describe the best of times. For others, that is a goal to achieve. And for those more fortunate, family and friends celebrating altogether is another reality.
There are things you can put into place so you do not need to endure as much and try to reconnect or make new traditions that you will find more uplifting …changing the cycle.
How to prevent or overcome the holiday blues through Heart Math.
- Be realistic about your plans. If you spend all your energy on frantic holiday preparations, the stress will accumulate and could lead to the blues. Instead, create space to enjoy yourself and the people in your life whom you love or enjoy being with. Remember it’s the quality not quality.
- Practice kindness and patience. These are heart feelings that nourish you and others, but they need to be engaged to provide the benefits. This can help you activate positive feelings of kindness and patience when you are irritable.
Heart Focus – Focus your attention in the area of your heart.
Heart-Focused Breathing – As you focus in the area of your heart, imagine your breath is flowing in and out through that area. Breathe slowly and gently in through your heart and slowly and easily out through your heart.
Heart Feeling - Continue to breathe through the area of your heart. Activate feelings of genuine kindness and patience as you breathe. Keep doing this until you feel impatience, irritation or stress release.
- If you’re feeling sad, don’t expect to feel differently just because it’s the holidays. But do reach out to others. Doing something with a friend can yield a quiet warmth of the heart that will nurture you, even if you don’t feel like “celebrating.”
- If a loved one is absent or a relationship was broken, don’t pretend it didn’t happen. This is a great time to talk about missed loved ones and fond memories, and emphasize the positive aspects of a relationship that has been lost.
- Cultivate an attitude of appreciation. Each year brings its changes. Make a list of all you have to appreciate.
If feelings of depression last longer than a few weeks or if the symptoms are severe, it’s important to seek professional help.
Research shows that depression results from a chemical imbalance in the brain. However I have found through research, scientists aren’t exactly sure what causes the imbalance.
Christmas can indeed be a sad time of year for many. Memories of what and who we no longer have and reminders of dreams and hopes lost can absolutely leave people feeling low.
I hope you all find a way to enjoy each day with each of it's blessings however small they may be.